This is really true. I've found one single kind of displacement spade lug that seems to never fail - ones sold by radio shack for use on the end of phone wire. I use a lot of these for lighting wires hooked to terminal strips, and they're bulletproof. Normal insulated spade lugs? Not so much.
Another kind of connector I experimented with and liked was a splice block that telco people use. It looks like a little circular 'wart' with a button on the center. You stick two wires to be spliced into it (no stripping required), squeeze the button with pliers, and it snaps shut with a satisfying click, stripping the wires and squirting them with some kind of conductive glue. 100% effective, but not cheap! *