I would like to protect ECU 200, and the relay contacts
> Would it be advisable to put in either a diode (such as between
> relay 155/terminal 87 and fan 172 (I'm not sure which fan and
> coil is the culprit, as stopped testing to prevent poss ECU
> damage [if not too late], but per diagram possibly fan 172 and
> relay 156 {thru closed relay 155}) or a MOSFET (where)?
You need to look closer at that Cartier J relay, specifically what happens between terminals 85 and 85A. I suspect (and/or hope) that 85 and 85A provide a diode'd OR function, where either terminal can energise the relay coil without feeding current back into the other terminal.
85A 85 _|_ _|_ \_/ \_/