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Something else going on there.....urban legend perhaps?
The "spring rate" / "axial stiff" of two geometrically identical bolts is the same....only the yield loads are different.
The elastic moduli for alloy steels are all pretty much the same which explains why the bolts perform the same until one yields.
Are your trying to tell me that a Grade 8 bolt will go "plastic" at a lower load than a Grade 5 bolt?
......I don't think so, show me the data.
better yet, here's the data
If the bolts are short, there isn't going to be much stretching going on. If want to get some stretch, you have to reduce the bolt's "spring rate" (aka "axial stiffness")
this can be done by:
going to a smaller diameter bolt, a longer bolt, adding some bolting compliance, like a disc spring (aka cupped washer, Belleville washer) using a different bolt material (copper based, Ti)
not by using a lower strength steel alloy
cheers Bob