I would like to apologies to all those who posted to my post about getting
out of modeling and getting rid of my models I had just gotten married 3 wks
before and I guess the strain of mounting bills and all of the moving of
stuff around tring to make room for all the wifes things kinda made me snap
but we talked it all out (lol she was mad at me for making the post to) and
we found a way to move things around so again my most sincerest apology to
all who posted or e-mailed me
Whew! Daryl, that's one heck of a run-on sentence but it seems to
reflect your exasperation. Take a deep breath, remeber why you got
married in the first place and always remember - it's a hobby. All
should fall into place from there.
Frank (husband and father of four, a dog, a healthy mortgage, etc...
And precious little modeling time but full of great reasons to keep
"Daryl" wrote in
Dude, you are on the toughest and most rewarding journey you'll be on. We
married in June 2002. I got her son, she got my 5 cats. We had two
townhouses full of stuff to combine and triage. We were in a rental
house. It flooded 4 times. First time 2 days after my wife's car got
totaled by a doofus who turned in front of her. Broke a bone in her foot,
couldn't go up and down the stairs herself. Oh yeah the day after her
accident I rear ended a guy (fairly gently) in heavy traffic because I
was more worried about getting home to her and not paying enough
attention. In our brand new, very expensive SUV. Than it got interesting.
She got pregnant. Believe me we've had more bad luck together than we
ever had separately. On the other hand we have a nice house with a big
yard, a be-yootiful 17 month old daughter, a dog, only 4 cats now, 2
goldfish and a betta. I'm working on getting my shop cleaned up, I also
got to acquire a number of woodworking tools and have been a number of
projects around the house that I find very satisfying.
It never really gets easy. You just have someone to share it with and
laugh about it together.
I was a bachelor for a very long time. It was a big change living with
and accomodating other people in my home. But you get used to it. As far
as modeling, you have got to plan a bit to give your self time for
modeling, just like anything else. Fortunately my wife turns in early,
after the baby is asleep and the boy. So everythning after 10 or so is
mine. Just got to use the time wisely.
And don't be to hesitant to apologize. You're an asshole, I'm an asshole.
We do stupid and/or inconsiderate things. So does she sometimes. Women
are wired differently, get used to it. But we also know that mostly it's
because we're tired. So we try to build up good time credits by doing the
positive things for each other so when we do the dopey things we have
that in the bank. For me I take my daughter as much as possible, I carry
her, change her, I put her to sleep sometimes (nap or nite), I go in in
the morning if she wakes up and wife is still getting ready, I watch her
so my wife can do the things she needs. Now the way it works is she
thinks I'm the greatest, her exhusband couldn't even hold the boy as an
infant, and her brothers aren't exactly the cuddly types. I make big time
points with her and her Mom, and I pretty much get to do what I want
within the confines of finances and time. Of course between you and me I
love my daughter like you wouldn't believe and I love every moment wiith
her. Plus she seems to like airplanes. I wonder if I have a budding
It just takes getting used to.