Just checkin' in

A couple of RCM regulars have pinged me recently, and Karl checks on
me every once in a while.
I lurk from time to time but haven't had anything I thought worth
posting since the remote valve grabber -- which works great, by the
way.
I'm lurchin' along. A grief counseller told me I'm doing very well. I
thought she was pulling my chain; if this is "well" I'd hate to see
"lousy". Then I went to a grief support group meeting. Yeah, OK, I
guess I'm doing about as well as anyone does at this stage of the
process. It's a slow process and it can't be hurried. There's a lot
to do and a lot to learn. If ya don't do and learn then ya don't
progress. Much of of it is difficult and some of it is painful, but
that's how it works.
Life changes permanently when a spouse dies. It can never again be as
it was before, so the survivor will never "get over it". That doesn't
mean it can't eventually be good, just that it will be different. The
challenge is then to decide and define how life will be.
I am definitely capable of joy and laughter, and I do have some happy
times with friends and family. I've been to the cabin three times
with friends, family or when I knew that lake friends and neighbors
would be there, and I thoroughly enjoyed it. It's too miserably hot
and humid to go this week.
Reply to
Don Foreman
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I'm not religious, but if she was looking down from heaven at you, I'm guessing that she would want two things: 1) for you not to forget her and 2) for you to be happy and carry on.
Reply to
Denis G.
It made the news in Dassel. We certainly claim to be outside the metro area. We even talk bad about those city people. They move out here and bring their selffish ways and city values and then expect us to conform to thier expectations. In my local government job, most of the complaints come from those "city people"
That looked like a real large pile of corn in the water.
Karl
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Karl Townsend
Well, for what it's worth, if I had a spouse and I died, and my spirit lived on in "heaven" or whatever, I'd want my living spouse to go ahead and let me go, get on with her life, and have fun however she can, whenever she's done with the sadness part.
Actually, I'd want that for her even if I simply ended, which I guess is what Agnostics and Neodruids believe happens. (I'd definitely be surprised if when I buy it, there are actual "Pearly Gates" - as soon as I saw them, I'd know I'm screwed for all of eternity.) >:->
Life, after all, is for the living. :-)
Cheers! Rich
Reply to
Rich Grise
There's no way I will ever forget Mary K. McCann unless I get Alzheimer's, and she absolutely would want me to carry on and be happy. I can almost hear her saying "Way to go, Foreman".
Reply to
Don Foreman
As are joy, happiness, pain and misery.
Reply to
Don Foreman
Glad to hear from you.
Didn't see it in Michigan but the 'news' was only covering Casey whatsername.
Yeah, I'd just watch the train go over from a bit away in the future.
Wes
Reply to
Wes
I figured so. You two sounded like a real good match and I think that you would want the same for her if your places were reversed. Still, it's hard to lose a treasure ...
Reply to
Denis G.
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Nasty train crash Don. I guess the wildlife will have a feeding frenzy on that spilt corn. Glad you weren't under it!
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Dennis
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I'm glad you checked in. I was starting to worry about you, but I didn't want to bother you with an e-mail.
From what I've seen of others, you are on the right track, and doing well. :)
How about posting something at least once a week so that we know that you're OK? If nothing more than 'Hello', or 'I'm still here'? You're one of the good guys and we don't want to lose you from our ranks.
Reply to
Michael A. Terrell
Just be glad yo don't live near orlando. It's all they have talked about for most of this year. It ticked me off when the 'talking TV heads' complained that they had to bring jurors in from another part off the state when there hasn't been more than a day at a time that they didn't talk about her. It was impossible not to hear about the case, and they were the ones who polluted the local jury pool. that cost the state another half million dollars, simply because they wouldn't shut up..
Reply to
Michael A. Terrell
Den 18-07-2011 06:36, Don Foreman skrev:
No news = good news
It is your life and nobody can live it for you.
Alive, maybe not 'alive and kicking' but alive and on your way. Way to go.
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Fwiw it did not hit the news in Denmark......
Reply to
Uffe Bærentse
I can definitely think of worse ways to go, and I've had a hell of a good life.
If that corn ferments, Locke Lake water could sell well!
Reply to
Don Foreman
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OK. Thanks, Michael!
Reply to
Don Foreman
What are freinds for, if not to remind you when you need it? :)
Reply to
Michael A. Terrell
If you can get the drunks out of the lake, long enough to pump it out! ;-)
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Michael A. Terrell

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