You're quite right, and no, you're not the only one noticing it. It's been grating a lot of people, including me, for a very long time.
I happen to think that PC-ness is being toned down lately, but it just may be a case of what I'm seeing. I think it reached its peak maybe five years ago.
Also, your basic point in that message is a valid one. Sorry for taking it off track. It just happened that I had read articles about both cases tonight and I was thinking about both of them when I saw your message.
My feeling about both not that they are intentionally hurtful, but that they are thoughtless and needlessly rude in public. It's something like hearing your pre-teen kid swear out loud. They all should be given a good talking to.
-- Ed Huntress