I have been almost completely occupied with my Father-in-law's impending death for the last six weeks or so. If someone has sent me a message and not recieved a reply that's the reason why. All the things left unsaid for years are now being said. Lots of painful things that the family has let fester. And now maybe less sincere than if adressed at the proper time. My wife is finding out how important some things are to her. The support she requires from me needs to be non-judgemental. Her father still needs to face up to some things. Not because anybody else thinks so, but because these things are still unsettled in his mind. I can see him struggling with his feelings. His ego fighting what he knows is the right thing to do. Hurt feelings abound from actions way in the past. And as if all that isn't enough, the people responsible for managing his pain are doing a terrible job. There is no excuse for depriving a dying person relief from pain. And the fear of overuse and addiction by a patient who has less than two months to live is ridiculous. As a consequence his pain level swings radically, dragging his mood along. Nurses were sent to his home to help manage his pain who didn't even know the exact nature of the opiates administered. Nurses that argued that certain drugs he was taking were completely different chemicals when they were in fact just packaged different or named different because of the difference between generic and brand names. When the information about these drugs is available on the FDA's website it is a wonder that these nurses can be so mis-informed. Fortunately the wrong information has been corrected. And it appears that starting today the pain control is finally being done correctly. Anyway, I just needed to blow off some steam. I'm not looking for sympathy. Thanks for reading. Eric
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18 years ago