Keith in large part I agree
But I put it to you, that we go to these sites because we love our craft/hobby. To have some thought put into "designing the experience" when visitors come to a site is akin to the experience we wish to achieve when we build our layouts. A bad site for me is a bad site! If I see/perceive a lack of thoughtfulness toward me in its design I may not come back.
If it is hard to get the information I am seeking, which often it is I may not come back..... same as when I went to a certain hobby store in town .... service was crap and the owner uninterested. Bye bye store
All I am saying is that possibly we don't realise good design when we experience it because it is transparent to our mission ..... I for one don't think good design = pretty pics. Rather it is a fully functional, intuitive and forgiving website that helps me with my goals and gives me a human experience
Cheers
Steve